Topic No. 1: Life After the Wedding - the Married Life.

What are the things you want them to know about life after the wedding?

I have read several posts about this tag and most wives and mommies went on saying that the first years of marriage were major adjustment part, that marriage is no bed of roses, and that Aggie herself even wanted out while others even questioned if they made the right choice. As I told Aggie, mine is nowhere near these real life drama scenarios.

Believe it or not, I never adjusted to married life. And so does Jon, as he would always claim too. For some reasons, life after our wedding was what we envisioned it to be. We hardly fought, we hardly even argued. You might raise your eyebrows on me now but its the truth. Our friends would even brand us the “perfect couple” but seriously now, nothing and nobody is perfect and we definitely are not. We do have petty quarrels but trying to recall them now, they won’t even count to five. And the things we disagree about? You’d probably don’t want to know. Silly stuff like my plunging neckline blouses, my always being late, my being forgetful, his love for dogs and the like. No big issues at all which is why each disagreement doesn’t even end up as a real disagreement as we both would give in to each other’s wants at the end all the time. What he wants matters to me and what I want matters to him so whatever he wants, I am willing to give and vice versa. I must say now that compatibility is key. We probably are “perfectly compatible” to like and not like same things. Hence, no need for arguments. And as we always would tell each other, WE come first on each other’s list, not his family and not my family. Some might not get it but we perfectly do and it works for us - so far.

So here’s what Sophia needs to know:

Choose the right person to marry. Use your heart and your mind all at once. And once you marry that someone you cannot live without, make him your world and I’m sure he’ll make you his too.

Communication is key. Your dad and I talk about anything. I tell him everything and vice versa. It works for us and it should work for you and your husband too. We also take pleasure making “tsismis” to each other before going to bed every single day. Such little things matter you know. We are bestfriends too other than being husband and wife.

Keep the romance alive. If it fades, as others attest to, do everything to rekindle it. Getting out of the marriage shouldn’t be an option no matter how tough things may get. Work on it no matter how hard. Stay committed. After all, that’s a promise you made to each other infront of God so you should keep it.

Respect is very important. It is what will get you through in tough times.

And lastly, I fervently wish you find someone you are perfectly compatible with like I am with your dad.